Thank God for “baby steps”

 baby steps

Thank God for “baby steps.”

As I mentioned in my previous post, I was diagnosed with colon cancer recently. I’ve been home from hospital for just over a month, and it has been a difficult, stressful time, without a doubt. The trick seems to be not to try to do too much, or you’ll be sorry, and yet not to do too little, because that doesn’t really work either.

The universe likes balance. Our bodies like balance. And true healing will only come as we discover what balance means in our own individual life and circumstance.

So although I am still physically weak and vulnerable, I’ve been learning that if I listen to the voice of spirit and take the baby step that opens before me in the moment, a path to healing does emerge.

For example, for a while, after I got home from hospital, JoAnn was doing all the work in the house. But then one day, after finishing breakfast, I thought to myself, I think I’m strong enough to do the dishes. So I did, and it was great being active again in that way.

We realized one day, my “caregiver” wife and I, that our little house REALLY needed a vacuum.

At first I thought, I’m not sure if I can manage that. But I did the hallway rugs, and that felt okay, and pretty soon we had the house shipshape again.

I wasn’t up to driving for a while. But then one day I knew in my bones, ‘It’s okay to drive again,’ and after a practice run in our immediate neighborhood off I went happily to my favorite coffee shop.

Step by step, normalcy has returned, or is returning.

I have a friend named Ron in Vancouver who is recovering from open heart surgery, and we were speaking on the phone about this eternal principle: finding the “middle way,” as I think the Chinese call it.

Ron set out for a walk, but he was walking at his usual pace and after only two or three minutes he began feeling a pain in his chest. He decided to keep walking but at a slower pace. Things settled down immediately and he walked for 40 minutes, which is more than I can do yet.

We’re all healing from something. We’re all on a journey to greater wholeness and happiness. There are times when a “baby step” is just what is needed to get us headed in the right direction.

Before I go, I want to thank all those who responded so warmly, in writing or in their hearts, to my last post. Your support and encouragement was overwhelming and gave me a big boost just when I really needed it.

Best wishes to you all. Hope you like the picture of the toddler.

Picture credit: Copyright All rights reserved by Cornell Fool

 

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Walter February 1, 2014 at 11:41 am

From Uruguay, an embrace of light and speedy recovery.
Walter

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Christopher Foster February 2, 2014 at 11:56 am

It’s lovely to hear from you, Walter. Thank you so much for sending your Love and Light all the way from Uruguay. Best wishes from Colorado.

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Marisa February 1, 2014 at 3:13 pm

My friend,
Your post brings a light of recognition in so many ways. Every step, of every day, is a “baby step” toward becoming our true self. When faced with what you have recently absorbed, your steps are similar to those of my youngest students….as they progress, so will you. My soul/spirit has been enriched by your strength, wisdom, and courage.
May the smile of a child, the kiss of a butterfly, and the love of humanity hold your hand with each step.
Marisa

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Christopher Foster February 2, 2014 at 11:59 am

Your words always bring joy to my heart, Marisa. Thank you for your encouragement and I send blessings to you and your students. They are in good hands.

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Timaree February 1, 2014 at 9:03 pm

Yes, think in baby steps! My husband did not. He had a quadruple bypass and was told not to lift anything heavier than a gallon of milk for two weeks. So what did he do right after two weeks? He tried to go right back to his “normal” which is way more than most men can do strenghtwise and while his muscles may have been strong enough, his cut sternum and chest muscles were not. He broke two of his wires and made his healing a lot tougher than it could have been plus an extra surgery when the broken wires kept poking him! So yes, keep to baby steps and you’ll do much better in the long run. I know you can get antsy to do more but use my husband’s example to keep yourself from doing too much too fast! Take care.

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Christopher Foster February 3, 2014 at 10:26 am

Timaree, thank you for sharing this touching story of your husband’s experience. There’s a good lesson in it for sure and I’ll take it to heart. It seems to be a time for patience and also persistence:-) I think my surgeon probably had it right when he said it generally takes about 6 months to fully recover from the procedure he performed. Best wishes to you and your husband.

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Christina Pivarnik February 1, 2014 at 10:25 pm

Much love and healing energy to you, Chris! Right there with you on every baby step. You’re an inspiration to all.
Hugs, Christina

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Christopher Foster February 3, 2014 at 10:27 am

Thanks Christina and back at you with the hugs!

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janet February 2, 2014 at 4:39 pm

Keep taking baby steps and healing every day. Your words provide much comfort to many people. Take Care, Janet

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Christopher Foster February 3, 2014 at 10:28 am

Thank you Janet. It’s good to hear from you. Best wishes.

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Beth Wilson February 3, 2014 at 11:08 am

Good morning, dearest Chris,

I realized as I read your post that I’ve neglected to send you get well soon wishes. Sounds like it’s working even without a note from me! You have been on my mind and in my heart. I love that we have this online community of people who have never met, many have never even spoken, but there is a language of the heart that connects us all. We’re the 21st century version of family.

So glad to hear your baby steps are going well. It’s my guess that each little accomplishment causes you to grin just like the adorable toddler pictured. Hooray!!

Love to you!
Beth Wilson recently posted..How to Live Like a Spiritual Warrior

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Christopher Foster February 15, 2014 at 12:26 pm

Dear Beth,

I am so sorry for the long delay in responding to your very kind and most welcome message. I want you to know your words have meant a lot to me even though I am embarrassed at the delay. I’m thankful for your kind message personally, but also most grateful for your words about community.

I love what you say about the “language of the heart.” We can’t make it individually and we can’t make it collectively without this “language.” The heart is not only the home of love, it seems to me that it is also the home of all that is genuine. And how much we need genuineness in our lives and in all our relationships.

Thank you again Beth. My love is with you. We’ve been sharing this journey for awhile now haven’t we?

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Tess The Bold Life February 4, 2014 at 8:52 pm

Hi Chis,

I had no idea this was happening. I’m sending you love and blessings. Let’s talk soon. xoox

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Christopher Foster February 15, 2014 at 12:28 pm

Hi Tess, thanks for writing, it was good to speak with on the phone the other day.

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Evan Griffith February 5, 2014 at 10:59 pm

Chris–

I love that you are taking us with you through this healing process. I get so much out of your posts and thoughts — I can’t think of a greater gift to all who love your work than what you are doing.

I feel as if I am being given profound life lessons in real time . . . .

Thank you for you!

Evan

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Christopher Foster February 15, 2014 at 12:29 pm

It’s very mutual Evan. I am most thankful also for your presence in my life. Be well.

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Bea March 26, 2014 at 10:06 am

Beautiful Christopher. You always inspire.
I am reading your posts after a long time and much as the news about the cancer is sad, i am so glad you are able to find the divine in you and connect with it. I think this idea of baby steps is significant indeed. I think I need to take some in some areas of my life too. Thanks you for your gentle reminder.
May you always be blessed
Bea :)

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Christopher Foster April 5, 2014 at 10:00 am

Hi Bea, sorry for the delay, I want to thank you for your kind words and wish you all the very best.

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