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There is always a way through


I sat down at my computer this sunny morning in Colorado – where floods have brought such havoc – to write a new post if possible. I’m sorry it has been several days since my last offering. I’ve been busy getting my new book on the “secret promise" of aging ready for publishing.

My target date for publication is October 1. I may or may not be able to meet that deadline. I do find that in this increasingly intense, rapidly changing world, it is helpful to have a goal – and it is also helpful to be flexible in our heart and mind as to exactly how and when that goal is achieved.

It would be nice if life was always a neat, orderly, predictable process but of course it isn’t. It’s more like a wild Colorado river, constantly changing, sometimes peaceful, sometimes whipping itself into a fury.

Even now, as I sit at my desk trying to concentrate on my post, a distraction arises. One of my favorite people, a three-year-old neighbor called Maxwell, is running past my window shouting with joy about something or other, and of course I have to take a moment to watch. What is more important, after all, in this moment, than to stop and enjoy such a picture of delight.

But if life isn't always comfortable or predictable, if it often resembles a wild, whitewater river, how do we handle the changes that life brings? How do we keep our happiness and sanity while rapids froth and foam all around us?

One of the great gifts of aging, in my experience, is that it offers an opportunity to see more clearly -- based in our own past experience -- that there is always a way through the challenges that life brings.

We can look back and see with our own eyes how we did in fact resolve or overcome a challenge even though it seemed at the time impossible. We thought the situation was hopeless but somehow we found the wisdom and courage to deal with it.

Putting it another way, aging gives us the opportunity to become more conscious of the true beauty of life and the unlimited potential of our own spirit.

We can savor the magic of “little moments” -- like watching a neighbor’s child at play – more deeply. We can become increasingly conscious of the deep pool of stillness and peace at the core of our being that is undisturbed by the tumult of existence.

There will always be challenges. But the genius of our own divine nature is well capable of showing us the way through whatever may befall us and of transforming whatever is transpiring in our world.

I send you best wishes and love and would love to share any thoughts you may like to offer. Be well.

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Ajay September 18, 2013 at 3:38 pm

Your posts always inspire me. I get them via feed burner. They give me a different perspective in this incessant chaotic environment. My mood changes to pleasant. As I grow older, I get agitated for silly reasons, as to why things are the way they are. Wish I could change. Why don’t people understand? Don’t they see the love and peace in this beautiful world. Thank you and keep writing.


Christopher Foster September 18, 2013 at 6:40 pm

Thank you Ajay. It is so encouraging to know that someone “hears” my ramblings. I relate to what you say about getting agitated for silly reasons as we age, and I know my wife does also. Our spirit is still as strong as ever but these instruments of mind and body that have carried us so faithfully to this point do become a little more vulnerable in some ways, for sure. They need a little extra TLC, shall we say. Best wishes to you Ajay and hang in there, okay?


Sal September 18, 2013 at 4:01 pm

Hi Chris,

As is usual, I take comfort and reassurance from your posts. You always remind me how precious all the little “now” moments are. These days I am grateful for each and every one of those moments. I have many of them with my 2-month-old grandson Izhak. He is such a little miracle, the softness of his skin, his baby smell, his little expressions, and his whole baby self.

I love to watch him sleep. He reminds me that we all started out as innocent empty vessels. He hasn’t learned any negativity yet. I believe that many problem areas in my life start with the spirit/psyche. The things that I have dealt with in a negative fashion are embedded in my spirit and comprised of learned behaviors. There are so many things that need to be “unlearned” on a daily basis, even if it’s as small as doing something different, as opposed to doing things the same old way as I’ve always done them.

Some days I feel overwhelmed, but most days I must say are blessedly positive, just by breaking the day down into all the “nows.” The moments of happy nowness are gratifying, and I find when looking back, that when appreciating the present, the future takes care of itself. I can’t do anything about the past, and I can’t control the future, but I can control the moment and all the promise it holds.


Christopher Foster September 18, 2013 at 6:48 pm

Right on, Sal. Thank you for your words about Izhak and about life. I love what you say. You get to the core of something that is so vital. As you say, if we attend to the “now” the rest will take care of itself. Let me see. Who was it who said something about that? Oh yes, it was Jesus. Something to the effect, “Sufficient to the day is the evil thereof.” Love to you Sal.


Jeffrey Willius September 18, 2013 at 6:27 pm

Thoughtful and encouraging as usual, Chris! I especially love how you recognize the wonder and power of life’s small miracles – like the joy of that child. You’re a good man, my friend!


Christopher Foster September 18, 2013 at 6:49 pm

I always love to hear your voice and feel your sweet, strong spirit Jeffrey. Thank you for taking the time to write and all the very best with your various endeavors.


Anthony Palombo September 19, 2013 at 11:05 am

Dear Chris,
Thank you for your post today. You come on through even in the midst of the chaos created by the current flooding in Colorado. This post comes at a timely moment for me as a call for change in my life beckons. Thanks for the reminder that the genius of my being will continue to see me through the changes. God bless you. ~Tony


Christopher Foster September 19, 2013 at 7:07 pm

God bless you too Tony. Thank you for your sharing. These calls for change come when they come, don’t they, sometimes when we least expect it. And what can we do but trust our inner genius, just as you say. I wish you all the very best and it is a privilege to share this life with you.


Judy Hollis September 19, 2013 at 7:21 pm

Thanks! So true! PS Do you live in Loveland or Centennial? Give my best to Joanne and hope she is actively quilting!


Christopher Foster September 20, 2013 at 6:47 pm

We live in Centennial now Judy. Big move 3 years ago. Thanks for your good wishes and yes, JoAnn is as busy as ever with her quilting. We both send our love.


Nikhil Gavade September 19, 2013 at 11:47 pm

Hello Chris,

I am new to this blog but feeling more confident and inspired after reading your writing about life. And yes, I totally agreed that life isn’t not always comfortable, we have to create own ways to make life beautiful…

Your thoughts are incredible. All the best for ‘secret promise’.


Christopher Foster September 20, 2013 at 6:49 pm

It’s great to hear from you Nikhil. Thank you for your kind comment and I hope all goes very well for you.


Maureen Moeller September 20, 2013 at 1:26 pm

How beautifully timed Chris. The tumult of our lives often do look like the rushing rapids of Bear Creek. Yes, we were there watching Bear Creek literally “eat” the parking lots, biting off large chunks of asphalt. Evergreen, where my sister lives, was closed for a day, but the brave residents/merchants came out and opened up their businesses the next day as the creek continued to rage.

My husband and I are still in awe as we realize we chose those exact 5 days to visit lovely CO. The rain began as we arrived and ended as we flew back home on Monday. We did not travel to Boulder or Estes Park as planned because it was impassable. Nor did we make it to Centenniel to visit a cherished friend I have recently been privileged to know:-) Our family has been visiting CO yearly since 1986 and never have we seen or heard of such natural tumult in such an arid state. It could be viewed as a big “bummer” to have hiking, biking and climbing plans abruptly changed by mother nature. Instead we spent time with family and hurting neighbors trying to help, encourage and assure them it would end and all will be well, though possibly changed.

And this brings us back to getting through the challenges and changes of life, you have so poignantly mentioned in your blog. We rescheduled our trip twice….so we know we were suppose to be there at that time. Looking at challenges differently helps us through; and knowing things are as they should be helps us work toward acceptance. Accepting change and challenge is saying “YES” to life, each precious moment. My oldest son is going through deep grief as his wife and 3 children are living in a far away state. My husband and I are too as we long for our beautiful grandchildren; at this time we cannot hug and kiss them, only talk on the phone and skype once in awhile.

Sometimes I really believe I am not going to get through this, and then a friend will suddenly say “It will change in time”, or “They are working through it, give them time” or “Your grandchildren will always love you”. And sometimes an unsuspecting friend writes a beautiful blog on “getting through the challenges and unpredictability of life”. Then I know I have the courage and resources to get through, just as I have before. My choice is “YES” to this sometimes overwhelming and frenzied challenge. Blessings on your upcoming publishing of your book, Chris. I will be an immediate customer!


Christopher Foster September 20, 2013 at 7:25 pm

Bless you and thank you for your comments Maureen. Wow. It sounds as if you were a bit more “in the thick of it” as regards the flooding in Colorado than JoAnn and I were. We do have a small creek at the back side of our townhome complex that was rushing along with a bigger volume than usual, but we were basically not touched by the disaster. How remarkable, as you say, that your 5-day visit to Colorado coincided with the terrifying events that have occurred here.

I applaud your beautiful spirit Maureen. You sure did have to change your plans and expectations in a hurry, but I am so moved with the way you not only came to terms with the situation but found a way to make a difference while the rapids were tearing through Bear Creek. I am sure that you and your husband will be all the stronger for the experience.

I think in a way this is the message of these times in which we live, to say “yes,” just as you say, to the challenges and turmoil — and of course to the joys and fulfillments too. It calls for a pretty nimble touch doesn’t it. I’m sorry I didn’t have a chance to meet you in person, but I send warmest greetings and best wishes to you and your husband, and to your grandkids and family. We are all in this together, for absolute sure.


Paula September 21, 2013 at 8:14 am

Thank you for these profound words, “We can become increasingly conscious of the deep pool of stillness and peace at the core of our being that is undisturbed by the tumult of existence,” and for the reminder that there is unlimited potential in our own spirit.
Profound words!


Christopher Foster September 23, 2013 at 10:02 am

Great to hear from you Paula. Thank you for your words and it’s good to share this life journey with you. All the very best.


Denny September 21, 2013 at 10:58 pm

Hi Chris, Once again I just have to tell you how much I loooooove your blogs with your words of wonderful wisdom and inspiration, I really look forward to them showing up on my computer! So Bless you for offering them to us…… I am also looking forward to reading your new book !


Christopher Foster September 23, 2013 at 10:06 am

Hey Denny, thank you as always for your kind and encouraging words. How is everything going there in South Africa? My wife and I love the movie ‘Invictus,’ I think we’ve already seen it twice but look forward to seeing it again. What a great gift Mandela brought to his country and to all of us,didn’t he?


Roger September 30, 2013 at 2:44 am

Hi Christy,

Sounds Good. It’s really cool that you are writing such a good topics over life. I am looking forward after reading your thoughts in some of posts. I will suggest to my granny.



Christopher Foster October 6, 2013 at 9:42 am

Thank you for your comment Roger, it’s good to hear from you. All the very best.


Melanie October 1, 2013 at 5:11 pm

Dearest Christopher,
Thanx for always reminding us of what’s really important:) I am looking forward to your book whenever it gets published and I have to say I’m starting to like this aging business more and more because I find I care less and less about being right and it really does make a huge difference in my life! Blessings to you and yours.


Christopher Foster October 6, 2013 at 9:48 am

Melanie, thanks for you kind words and for your positive spirit. Yes. I think one of the great opportunities of aging is that we have the opportunity to be more genuine — to experience our natural self more fully. What a relief, just as you say.


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