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In God’s good time

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If you want to bring some extra pain into your life, insist that some particular project or process in which you are engaged must be finished by such and such a time.

On the other hand, if you would like to experience more peace in your life, take a look at this tendency bred deep in every one of us to want to bend the universe to our will at all costs.

Of course, there are times when setting a deadline for some task or accomplishment is necessary, and helpful. And sometimes a deadline is handed down to us from a higher source – from life itself, perhaps, or from our boss, let's say.

But I become more and more conscious, as I age, that everything works much better in my life when I follow the same law which the Universe itself honors: “In God’s good time.” There is a rhythm to the rise and fall of oceans. A flower, getting ready to unfurl its petals and impress the world with its beauty, does so in an orderly way. Birds sing when they feel the urge to sing, and you don’t have the impression they want to finish their song as quickly as possible so they can get on to their next task.

Speaking of myself, I have this new book that I am working on with the fury and passion of a 20-year-old working for a degree or training for the Olympics. I want to get it finished and published yesterday.

But the book has made it very clear to me on a number of occasions that it will be finished when it’s ready to be finished, and not before. It has reminded me in compelling ways how important it is to trust life and be flexible – a bit flexible anyway – in my goals. And it has reminded me that when we do trust, and persevere, being true to our highest vision, things usually work out beautifully even though we may find ourselves biting our nails at times.

For instance, a few weeks back I sent invitations to a number of well-known “influencers” – important people -- telling them about myself and my book and asking if they would please consider giving me an endorsement for the book. I wanted to give my new baby the best possible chance to succeed and thrive in a fast-paced world.

I’m happy to say that I received some wonderful responses that make me very, very proud. They are going to look terrific on my front and back cover. But it was a cliff-hanger, as days passed and no testimonials showed up. I had set a “deadline," you see – yes, I admit it. But in this case I think a deadline was actually helpful.

It gave me an excuse to send out a few reminders to people high on my list as my “deadline” drew close and then – what else could I do? -- sit back and trust. I was so touched with the kind and generous “blurbs” that arrived just in the nick of time and brought a glow to my heart.

Introducing The Secret Promise of Aging

The name of my new book is The Secret Promise of Aging: Finding Meaning, Joy and Inner Peace as Years Fly By. It’s an evolution from my previous book, Aging into Bliss, which I published last year, but which will shortly no longer be available.

I realized with hindsight that the earlier book was quite limited in its scope and depth. I gave it my best and I was proud of it at the time. But then I began to see that there was so much more I wanted to share about the meaning, joy and peace that is our true destiny regardless of our age. I earnestly believe my new book will be a big improvement on its predecessor and I look forward to introducing it to you and others as soon as possible – in God’s good time, mind you!

As always, I would love to hear your thoughts or experiences regarding the above topic.

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cathy Scaife August 15, 2013 at 1:16 pm

thank “YOU”. I needed to hear these words today… as clearly and as simply as you wrote them. Some times I forget that the universe does play a part in how things unfold.
Thank you… Cathy


Christopher Foster August 15, 2013 at 6:26 pm

Bless you and thank you for your words Cathy. A lot of healing is waiting to happen in all of us I believe as we stop thinking of the universe as somehow separate from us and realize that we are part of it and forever one with it, whatever “it” is…


susan bennett August 15, 2013 at 3:11 pm

Thankyou Chris for articulating an experience that has become more prominent in my life as well.. I look forward to reading your new book


Christopher Foster August 15, 2013 at 6:28 pm

Susan, thank you so much for your sharing. Your website is lovely. Wishing you all the very best with your endeavors.


Maureen Waller August 15, 2013 at 5:20 pm

Hi Chris:
I loved your words, as I always do, and wonder if you would give me permission to quote them in a service or two? Of course, I would give attribution to you and also of course, if this does not work for you I will honour that.
Love …………Maureen


Christopher Foster August 15, 2013 at 6:30 pm

Lovely to hear from you Maureen. How is everything going? My love to you and Canada and I’d be honored, of course, if you’d like to use my words in some way.


Michel Vaillancourt August 16, 2013 at 7:25 am

Dear Christopher,

Life is a constant wonder, it stimulates, it creates change, it challenges our capacities to adapt to the present moment circumstance, it demands that we love every event that comes our way and asks us to bless people and things that fullfil that moment.

You my friend have mastered the way to create with your words this challenge of questioning the way in your life, and in doing so you inspire others to look at their way of living. Your humanity and selfless ways of living are an example to your readers. We both know that our circumstances are self created and come to us as we are ready to face them, but our mind races through life looking to fulfil the void that it sees. Our need is to relax in those times and let the answer come. It’s an art that sometime takes a lifetime to refine.

I am thankful for the beautiful expression you provide to me and feel privileged to be on your mailing list.
One with you


Christopher Foster August 16, 2013 at 3:14 pm

Thank you for your lovely expression Michel. You are a kindred spirit and it is a privilege to share life’s journey with you. I send blessings and love, and wish you all the very best in your endeavors.


Phil D. Malmstrom August 16, 2013 at 12:18 pm

This was a wonderful post Christopher, and something that I’ve found in my life as well. When we sit back and honestly assess the things in our lives that cause the most anxiety and stress, quite often we find that those painful situations arose from us trying to force things to occur on our schedule, rather than trusting in God’s perfect timing.

It’s wonderful to hear about your upcoming book as well… I have no doubt that it will be an inspiration to all those that read it.

Have a Blessed Day my friend!
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Christopher Foster August 16, 2013 at 3:18 pm

Phil, thank you so much for your kind words, much appreciated. I don’t remember when our lives first crossed paths, but it feels like a long time ago. I appreciate so much your kind, compassionate presence in my life. May you have a blessed day also.


Nadeja August 16, 2013 at 3:00 pm

Chris, what a joy I feel in anticipation of your new book!
Blessings and love dear friend,


Christopher Foster August 16, 2013 at 3:19 pm

So good to hear from you Nadeja. Thank you and God bless.


William Comer August 16, 2013 at 10:21 pm

Living in Thai culture has taught me to deepen patience. Interesting that “Patience” is associated with the 7th endocrine gland, and the “floor”–the grounded floor that supports all that happens above in that design. Waiting on the creative process at times raises havoc in me emotionally. Then when I become really conscious of that internal behaviour and “let go.” my system floods with joy and song.

Your forthcoming tome will be a blessing to all who take ownership of a copy.


Christopher Foster August 17, 2013 at 5:59 pm

Bless you and thank you for your insights William. Your words on patience and the Thai culture are very touching. I remember when you made that decision to move to Thailand and I often think of the particular courage and trust and the adventurous spirit that was called for in that undertaking. It’s good to keep in touch and thank you for your kind words re my book.Isn’t it cool that though geography often separates us physically in this life, it doesn’t mean that our sense of connection with another person or people needs to suffer. In fact sometimes we may even find ourselves being drawn closer.

So here’s to friendship, says I, whether apparently near or far. Don’t let go of the joy or the song brother.


Kate August 17, 2013 at 1:15 pm

I look forward to your new book. And I agree that plans are great but rigid timelines are often pointless ways to make ourselves crazy!


Christopher Foster August 17, 2013 at 6:00 pm

Thank you Kate. Great to hear from you and thank you for your kind sentiment re my book.Blessings.


sheila August 17, 2013 at 5:53 pm

Good day Christopher
One of my favorite quotes
” Adopt the pace of nature, her secret is patience ”
All good things come in time and yes there are deadlines in life but for some things a little bit of patience is truly worth the wait.
Thanksgiving this year ( Canadian ) I shall become a grandmother for the first time, a life time event that is truly worth the wait !!!


Christopher Foster August 18, 2013 at 4:24 pm

Thanks for the lovely quote Sheila, and congratulations on soon becoming a grandmother. Yes, indeed, well worth the wait. I wonder if it will be a boy or a girl…Always a great pleasure to hear from you Sheila. Give my love to Canada.


Marisa August 18, 2013 at 7:37 pm


“Tide and time wait for no man. “St. Marher in 1225.

Your post has had me pondering TIME for a few days. It has always been my belief that the most treasured gift in the world is TIME. This gift embellishes relationships, accentuates priorities, opens the window to explore nature, mankind, humanity, and love. No matter what your beliefs may be, or the impact of all we are gifted through our journey here on Earth, Time is the only irreplaceable entity in my life.

Time, past and present, is one of most powerful tools to refresh memories , lessons learned, love given, received, and even rejected. The bearer of healing, the hope of forgiveness, the belief in a supreme power…the list is endless of all we can gain, give, and accept with TIME.

Aging gives us the TIME to slow the pace, embrace the present moment, accept our imperfect selves, and walk with our brothers and sisters. The music is purer, the laughter is from our toes to our heads, the abundance of all things nature offers is tactile, and our spirits and souls become sensorial in their ever presence. And then we realize, again, we have had all of this from birth, we just forgot, at times, to refresh our understanding and experience all of our moments…….peace of mind has often evolved, with the realiztion that in due time all will become as it should be.


Christopher Foster August 20, 2013 at 9:11 am

What beautiful words Marisa. Thank you so much for taking the time to share these inspiring thoughts and meditations about time. I especially love what you say about aging in this regard, and the unique opportunities that aging offers to deepen our experience of life, to smile more broadly and laugh, as you say, from our head to our toes. I’m laughing right now as I contemplate this brilliant notion.

Perhaps, out of sight of much of the mainstream media, a quite revolution is underway. People are realizing — whatever their age — that each moment offers us the opportunity to engage more fully and deeply and joyfully with this ever-present miracle of life. Every word of your comment rings so true for me. Love to you Marisa.


Evan Griffith August 20, 2013 at 2:39 am

I’m wishing you wonderful and mind-blowing results with this new evolution, Chris!
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Raymond Granado August 23, 2013 at 5:20 pm

Raymond Granado August 23, 2013 at 11:28 am
The universe and we are connected ….. Great words . Somehow we were tricked into thinking that we and source { the universe } are somehow not connected . We are source , and source is us . Why do we need a middle man{ Priest , Preacher etc… } to help connect us to what we Already are ? We are extensions of the great universe and have access to the great Power that always , has and always will always create worlds ! Thank you for your words ….


Christopher Foster August 30, 2013 at 5:01 pm

Thank you for your comment Raymond. It’s great to hear from you and I apologize for the slow response. Yes yes. The universe is not separate from us and we are not separate from it. Happy to share this experience of oneness with you.


Raymond Granado August 23, 2013 at 11:46 pm

Sadness , This is something I know a bit about . Well more like depression . What causes this condition ? I have found that when I feel sad , bad or just not quite right , it is because I am not in alinement with myself . Some may say ” OK Ray your getting a little to new age y for me .” However when things ever get real bad , I mean you hit rock bottom and there seems like there is no where to turn …. We turn inside . We pick ourselves up dust ourselves off and say enough , I gotta stop this behavior , I’ve got to stop talking like this { negative } and that is the first step to putting ourselves back into alinement with our higher selves . You can call it what you want , Higher self , source , universe , god etc.. When you have alignment you feel good . When your not in alinement you feel bad . Whatever you put out there in the world , or this great universe , you will get it back , good or bad . Every time without fail ….


Nikhil Gavade September 20, 2013 at 12:03 am

Hi Chris,

I heard a lot of time that smallest decisions that can change your life forever. I think, this post is forcing me to change living.

Love with no regrets,


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