Aging has its downside, of course. Things go wrong. You wake up one day, like I did recently, and realize with horror and consternation that your sex drive has taken a tumble. It’s not quite what it used to be. What? A test shows that my testosterone level is only 101, when the normal range is 200-900 or so?
How could this be?
But surpassing any of aging’s complications and anxieties is an enormous upside sent directly from heaven. Growing old offers the opportunity – if we are so blessed – to connect more deeply than ever with the love at the core of our being, and express that love to the full regardless of what may be going on with our physical body.
A door to greater self-discovery
Putting it another way, aging – like any challenge – can be a door to greater self-discovery. We have time to embrace and nurture deeper aspects of ourselves than was perhaps possible when we were busy with the responsibilities of adulthood — or intoxicated with the adventure of youth. We can listen more keenly to the quiet voice of wisdom in our heart.
My experience of meaning increases dramatically as I express more love into my world. Simple little moments, like watching the bunny who lives under a tree outside our house, or saying hello to the young lady serving me coffee at my coffee shop, acquire new wonder.
I discover that I can heal my past. I can see unfortunate events or difficult relationships from my past in a new light. I see my father, Reg, in a totally new light — the light of love. We clashed so painfully while he lived. I didn’t understand him and he didn’t understand me. But now I do understand him – just as I know he understands me — and my love for him is uninhibited.
That’s worth something, isn’t it? Perhaps that victory alone makes aging more than worthwhile? But there is more than that. So much more.
A re-birth for my book
What a wild, wonderful journey life is. I find a growing passion in me to share my experiences of aging as fully and broadly as is possible. Just so you know – it’s why I’ve been a bit silent on my blog – I am working to re-craft and re-imagine my recently published book on aging. I love my book as it first appeared under the title, Aging into Bliss. It was my “baby.” But life seems to be calling on me to make some changes – perhaps a new title, a new cover, and some more new material — and how can I argue with life?
Whoever we are, and wherever we live — the truth is that life is really in charge. I send you greetings and love and would love to hear from you on any of the above.
Picture credit: Robert Lz