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As love increases fear decreases

I was in a situation the other day that brought up some anxiety and uncertainty. The troubled feelings still linger as I write these words to you, although they are less intense now.

Fear comes and goes. It’s like a storm or strong wind that blows up in sudden fury and then diminishes and dies away.

We cannot stop fear from entering our lives. But what we can do, and indeed must do when it rises up, is remember that our true nature is not fear.

Love is our true nature. Gentle, strong and timeless.  How I love what does not change, and does not come and go -- the love that animates each of us and is who we truly are. One presence. One love. One whole.

Fear is rampant in our world, of course. But as I listen to love's eternal presence I know that fear is not an enemy. It is a messenger that may have something useful to say to us. It is a lost friend who seeks our love. It is a little bit of lost energy that wants to come home.

As I change my attitude toward fear a miracle happens. An ancient law asserts itself: As love increases, fear decreases.

I bless you in your journey. If you have some thoughts you’d like to share please write.

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Sandi September 20, 2012 at 8:42 pm

Christopher- your post resonated within me as I not only often deal with fear in it’s many different costumes, but get a physical reaction within my body as it arises. I have tried to have a mental dialogue with myself to not let the fear be in charge.

I experienced this the other night as I headed to a meeting of people I did not know personally. I felt the anxiety begin to swell the closer I got to the location, and my stomach begin to knot. I wanted to ‘retreat’ and just go back home but knew fear would have won. As I entered the room I put on a smile and received so many welcoming smiles in return…the warmth enveloped my whole being. The fear was gone. I was so happy I had pushed myself through the situation…had I not, I would have missed out on so much!


Christopher Foster September 21, 2012 at 12:03 pm

Thanks for sharing this inspiring story Sandi. You faced your fear and listened to that voice of integrity and truth that is in you and you had a real victory. Part of the victory of course was sharing your own beautiful spirit with all those others at the meeting. Sometimes our moments are big moments and sometimes they are small moments but don’t you find they all give us an opportunity to shine our light as it has been put.

You’re doing good Sandi. Well done.


Elke September 20, 2012 at 10:20 pm

Hello, Christopher!

It’s been a while since I last chatted and a lot has happened since. There have been numerous ebbs and wonderful flows, one of them being love!

Having two failed marriages already I never thought I would want to be in a relationship again, especially as I now need to make life’s important decisions not only for myself but also for my son. However, an old school friend has returned into my life and for the first time I am able to be in love AND true to myself. As a young woman I was a true rebel without a cause and I now believe that my troubled teenage years somehow built a fear inside of me which caused all this unnecessary turmoil and resulting heartache!

It is wonderful to know that romantic love can be empowering and bring calm instead of robbing one of one’s senses and causing turmoil!

As always, your blogs help to express what happens in my life every time and I find the coincidence amazing!
Thank you again,


Christopher Foster September 21, 2012 at 12:14 pm

What a joyful update Elke. Thank you so much for writing. It’s a pleasure to share your thoughts and feel the liberation and increased freedom that is going on in your experience. I especially love what you say about romantic love, and how it can be empowering and beautiful. It seems to me you’ve been “doing your work” as JoAnn might say, that is facing your issues and your fear, and life is flowing more freely beczuse of it.

I do so much appreciate your touching base here once in awhile and I thank you for your kind words at the end of your message re my blog. Blessings to you Elke. Be well.


Janice September 21, 2012 at 6:56 am

Beautiful. Just what I needed to hear today. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.


Christopher Foster September 21, 2012 at 12:21 pm

Thank you for taking the time to write Janice. I do wish you all the very best and may your life unfold in beautiful ways.


kim September 21, 2012 at 10:21 am


Wow, your words ring so true. I am currently sitting in fear over money and the flow of money into my life. As a result I have a throat infection. My body reminds me that fear is not the way forward. Sometimes I get lost in fear and I thank you for reminding me that love is the truth.

I really love your writing:-)
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Christopher Foster September 21, 2012 at 12:32 pm

Money is a big one isn’t it Kim. Our body surely does give us very good feedback. Your words remind me it is good to listen to that feedback, just as it’s good to listen to the wisdom that is within each one of us and that is always giving us little clues and nudges if we listen. Blessings to you Kim.


kim September 25, 2012 at 9:57 am

Thanks for your reply Christopher,

I feel so happy to have found your blog and to share in your wisdom, your kindness and your love.

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Elizabeth Nunn September 21, 2012 at 5:26 pm

While I wholeheartedly agree that Love, our true nature, is gentle, strong and timeless, I want to talk about the strength of Love.

For years I have observed people confuse Love with Hallmark-type romance, which is fine, that kind of love is an aspect of the greater Love. But at 71, I have never seen such a world-wide fear pattern as I see nowadays. So, I want to address the strength and power of Love in relation to the massive fear present in our world.

The closing line of The Great Invocation is this…”Let Light and Love and Power restore the Plan on Earth.” I think we have a good understanding of Light and Love. What I am considering these days is Power. We’ve seen the abuse and misuse of power. Do we understand the meaning of the higher aspects of Power…of divine Power? It is something I ponder every day. So I invite readers of Chris’ blog to consider this with me. The strength and power of Love is what overcomes fear.
And, perhaps someday, Hallmark will have these kinds of cards.


Christopher Foster September 22, 2012 at 10:49 am

I want to express my deep thanks for your important contribution Elizabeth. I do so agree with you that Love, as it truly is, is so much greater than any “Hallmark” style concepts we may have about it.

Obviously the word “Love” is just a word. But it does point to a reality that we all may experience to an increasing degree in our lives.

In this regard, I was thinking of a couple of examples of people who have embodied this magnificent reality of Love in a remarkable way, Nelson Mandela of South Africa, and the Burmese activist, Aung San Suu Kyi. What stands out for me as I think of such people — and there are many, many such people, of course, some known and some not known — is that they are both gentle and strong at the same time.

The universe loves balance, and we know Love as we too allow balance to be made increasingly evident in our lives. Thank you again Elizabeth and I send you a ton of blessings.


journeyintopoetry September 22, 2012 at 4:55 am

This is lovely Christopher.

I think we are created with a sense of fear as human beings in order to protect ourselves, – “fight or flight” etc and like you said that is when fear is good as it has a message for us, a warning, to be on the alert so to speak.

It is when those fears take hold in areas of our lives where it becomes unhealthy for us and they become totally pointless and of no help whatsoever. These are the biggest fears I think we face and the ones that need the most work in order to abate them.

I have had many such fears and have suffered greatly from them. I am aware it is a constant process for me and sometimes these fears diminish to a manageable level, but some days they are huge again and I have to work at them. I think they will always be there because we have that very basic instinct in us. But for me it’s about trying to maintain a balance between what is healthy and what is not.

And on a good day I can open myself to receive that Love you talk about but it has to be up to me to be open.

I think I am in danger of rambling!!! 🙂

Christine xx
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Christopher Foster September 22, 2012 at 11:12 am

I sure love hearing from you Christine. Thank you so much for your comment. I think you hit the nail on the head. It takes work to keep a balance in our lives between what is healthy and what is not. Fear is a slippery customer indeed, sometimes looming large, sometimes retiring into a quiet corner somewhere. But how thankful we may be that in the stillness of our being is an underlying calm unaffected by any of the ups and downs that life throws at us.

As you say, we have to be open to this underlying calm to experience it, but the good news is that the more we do experience it, the more our love for what does not change and is always here increases. I’m so happy to be in touch with you Christine. Blessings to you and stay strong.

PS Have you ever tried abdominal breathing? I find it a wonderful relaxer. I do a bit every evening. There are good instructions on the internet.


Carmen September 22, 2012 at 9:31 am

Hi Christopher,

Once again, you offer a timely reminder of a timeless truth “perfect love casts out all fear. ” Thank you, once again for your gentle wisdom to trust in Wisdom. Over 30 years ago, I lived in fear never realizing I had suffered horrible childhood trauma that had caused it until God revealed and healed me. He knows the end from the beginning, so now I see him in my future already there to meet me. In these times that can often incite fear, Jesus comes to us walking on the water of the storms of our lives and speaks, “Peace be still” to the human heart. Your place of pain has become your place to reign.


Valerie Baker September 22, 2012 at 10:56 am

Chris, how well you characterize the fears that take hold of us. It seems no matter how long we’ve been “doing our work,” we still struggle with this issue.

Thank you for the gift of your perspective, and the reminder of what’s true and available in every moment. Your vision is a heartwarming beacon.
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Christopher Foster September 22, 2012 at 2:29 pm

Valerie, how are you? Thanks for your comment, and thank you for the unique gift that you share with your world. It’s good to be on this journey together.


Carolyn Hughes September 22, 2012 at 12:39 pm

What a powerful statement! As love increases, fear decreases. That has been so true in my life and the basis of my recovery from alcoholism and depression.
A beautifully written post. Thank you!
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Christopher Foster September 22, 2012 at 2:36 pm

Thanks for your comment Carolyn. I love the title of your new post. Forgiveness is the key to freedom isn’t it. And it only takes a moment to turn that key and change our life. Love to you.


Maureen Moeller September 22, 2012 at 7:38 pm

Once again Christopher your wisdom brings me peace and reminds us of what we already know; who we really are is Love. During this highly agitated political climate, we would do well to remember your words: “Love is our true nature, gentle, strong and timeless.”

As we befriend our fears (such a powerful analogy as a lost friend), perhaps the increased love will enable us to see one another, especially those of opposing political philosophies, not as the “enemy”, but as fearful fellow travelers looking for the invitation to let go and love.

Thank you so much for sharing what is true Christopher; it is not easy for many of us to see.


Christopher Foster September 23, 2012 at 10:24 am

Maureen, thank you so much for your support, encouragement and your strong message. Your vision of a new possibility in how we see other people, especially our perceived “enemies” is potent indeed, and beautifully conveyed. Really, your comment is a blessing. Love to you.


Allan Winchester September 24, 2012 at 9:10 am

That is very thoughtful of you. All we need to overcome fear is love. I am so inspired.
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