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Giving our gift without strings attached

Well, it’s been a long haul, but I think I've finished my book. I could spend longer on it, of course. I could spend at least another month, perhaps another year, trying to make it just a tiny bit better.

But there comes a point where you have to say to yourself, “Heck, I’ve done my best. It’s time to let my baby go.”

And so on Thursday or Friday I’ll send my book on the next leg of its journey to a friend in British Columbia who will design and format it for me.

Winners of the “free book” contest

It was a challenge, it really was, to decide who would win the two free books for most helpful suggestions for a title for my book. The response was terrific, with over 30 commenters. I’m happy to announce that the winners are Valerie Baker and Rick Bischoff.

Thanks guys. The book will be on its way to you as soon as possible.

"Aging into Bliss: Discovering the Joy of Our True Nature as years go by"

Here’s the title I finally decided upon: “Aging into Bliss: Discovering the Joy of Our True Nature as Years Go By.” And here is the question that is in my heart as I move forward with this project.

Am I offering my book to the world – and laboring over it with all the care that is in me – because I hope for recognition and attention, or for some material reward?

I suppose some recognition would be okay. Some material success would be more than okay, it would be great. A fulfillment of a dream.

But the real truth of the matter is I am doing the book because I can’t not do it.

Maybe this is why a mother gives birth. I’m hardly qualified to say. Perhaps there’s a paradox here. There is nothing wrong with well-earned praise and material reward. It is wonderful. In a way, it is necessary. It completes the cycle of giving and receiving and inspires us to want to do even better.

But I realize more clearly every day that I have already been given the most precious gift life has to offer, and so have you. It is the gift of our own indomitable spirit, our own timeless presence and nothing can surpass this gift.

Bliss is our birthright

Bliss is our birthright. It is your true nature. No one can take this bliss from you unless you give it to them.

Bliss is available to each one of us in this very moment. Not in some future moment, but in this moment. It was given us at our birth.

Are you looking for attention or recognition from another person, or from other people? Is it important to you that they recognize how remarkable you really are?

You are important already. You are remarkable already. You already have stature.

When we give the unique gift that we came to give freely and without strings the whole world sings and breathes a sigh of thankfulness.

I send love and blessings and wish you the very best on your life journey. As always, any comments much appreciated.

Picture credit: YTruly



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Priska August 9, 2012 at 4:04 pm

Bliss is our birthright, our true nature. But somewhere along the way we lose sight of this birthright as we struggle to fit in by seeking praise and material reward. Your blog is an inspiration, a support in finding more meaning, depth, authenticity. Your posts inspire us to understand our true value. Sharing your wisdom is your true legacy, praise and material reward is the fringe benefit. I look forward to reading your book.


Christopher Foster August 10, 2012 at 10:23 am

Hi Priska. As I read your very kind comment I thought to myself, “The word ‘bliss’ is very similar to the word ‘bless.'” Your words are a blessing to me and I do thank you.


Maureen Moeller August 9, 2012 at 9:29 pm

Congratulations Rick and Valerie! And Chris, I really like the name of your book and am looking forward to reading it too! Two lines in your current post struck me: “We are already remarkable. We are already important.” As often is the case when I read insightful and truth-filled words, I identify with an event in my own life when I forgot that Maureen is “already” remarkable.

As a school counselor, a lovely, young single mother nominated me for an award. She was so grateful for the time and effort I gave her little boy she felt I needed to be recognized. I was selected and featured on local TV and received a plaque and flowers.

I waited for my colleagues to shower me with congratulatory attention. None came. Literally none. The teachers were hurt/angry that I had earned a “teacher” award and felt I was not in that category, but I had to figure that out on my own. All I felt was silence and rejection. What I thought should have been a time of glorious, positive adulation was turned into a confusing, awkward and broken hearted school year.

Because I wanted (craved) attention; because I had finally “proven” myself; because I “deserved” it, I allowed the whole school year to be affected as well as my relationships with my colleagues. It was the single most impactful “teaching” moment in my professional life. Remembering we give our gifts with no strings attached is not easy for me. I could list a myriad of reasons why, but it doesn’t matter. What matters is that I try to remember, every day, that I am already remarkable.


Christopher Foster August 10, 2012 at 10:40 am

This is such a touching story Maureen. Thank you so much for sharing it. I find your comment most inspiring. We are all born into an imperfect world and we have all been “wounded” in one way or another as a result. I don’t find it easy either giving my “gift” without strings.

The important thing, however, it seems to me, is that we persevere in expressing our best and learning from our experiences. And in this regard I admire you Maureen, I really do. Blessings.


Phil D. Malmstrom August 10, 2012 at 11:36 am

Congratulations on the “birth” of your book Christopher! No doubt, as your writing here inspires those who read it (myself included), your book will bless it’s audience as well. God has very definitely given you a gift, and you honor Him by sharing it with all of us. 🙂

Have a Blessed Day my friend!
Phil D. Malmstrom recently posted..Thankful Thursday: In Your Divine Company


Christopher Foster August 10, 2012 at 5:01 pm

It’s a pleasure to hear from you Phil. Many thanks for your words of blessing. It’s good to share this extraordinary adventure of life with you. Be well.


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