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What does hair have to do with anything?

This is a story about hair. My wife's hair, of course, because the truth is, I don't really have enough hair to be worth writing a story about.

JoAnn has been talking about this for a couple of weeks or so, but this morning, I started to really listen. The first thing I heard is that her hair is really important to her, and always has been, ever since she was a four- or five-year-old kid growing up in Kansas. “My cousin and I were neighbors, and we copied the Shirley Temple look," said my wife. “We both had curls which our Moms pinned up for us every night."

About 20 years ago, JoAnn found a new hairdresser and a new hairstyle that she really liked -- so much that she used to travel 50 miles to get a new hairdo. I must say her hair really did look pretty good. Even I, a neophyte in these matters as I say, really loved how it looked... from the first time I met her.

But life changes, and you have to face your fear and trust the changes. And this is the point of this little story. A few months or so ago, JoAnn acknowledged to herself that, as she puts it, “My scalp actually hurts if I try to make my hair go the way it used to go. I told my hairdresser, and she agreed with me that we have no choice but to let it do what it wants to do.”

There was a little pause and she added poignantly, "It sounds crazy, but it's been one of the hardest adjustments I've had to make."

Letting life have its way critical to wellness

I can't help thinking how important it is to wellness to let life move the way it wants to move. We always get into trouble if we try to fight life or force an arbitrary opinion or mindset into some situation.

Recently, for example, I had a wonderful conversation with a stranger who lives not too far away from where I live. We chatted for nearly an hour in a very spontaneous and easy way on a number of subjects of mutual interest and it was delightful. I thought to myself as I walked away, “I think I've found a real friend."

Well, I hope so. But time will tell. Thus far there has been no response to a message I left on their answering machine. Should I try to influence the matter anymore? I don't think so. I'm quite happy to let life decide what is the right thing in this situation.

How about you? What's been your experience in this most important area of how we relate with life? Have you had similar experiences? Different experiences? I'd love to hear from you.

Wellness tips and resources:

Last week I mentioned a company I had come across named The Wholefood Farmacy that specializes in healthy, convenient, whole food-based meals and snacks along with non-toxic personal care items. I'd like to report on one of their products, Phi Plus, that I purchased.

To be brief, I like it. I really like it. It's a substantial, interesting, tasty, rather remarkable blend of organic nuts, fruits, seeds, grains, legumes etc. etc. Putting it another way, it contains phyto-chemicals, flavonoids, vitamins, minerals, essential fatty acids and fiber.

The list of ingredients is long – very long -- from organic pumpkin seeds to organic freeze-dried strawberries, organic walnuts and organic Stevia leaf. A 2-oz serving has 4 grams of fiber and 5g protein. No added sugar. I munch some before heading out to the gym, for example, and take it on hikes or to the coffee shop.

I'm a tall, lean fellow with a high metabolism, and one of my problems has been finding something nutritious for my midmorning and midafternoon snacks. Phi Plus fits the bill very well in this regard. Another plus for me is that it’s synergistically prepared in such a way that it doesn’t need to be refrigerated.

Another company I found out about that may be of interest to you is a German eco clothing pioneer named Hessnatur. It was founded 35 years ago and makes over 1500 natural clothing products for women, men, kids and babies. JoAnn, who has skin sensitivities, only wears natural fibers like cotton or silk and I much prefer them too, so we intend to look into Hessnatur further.

I’m hoping that including concrete wellness resources and ideas such as these in my weekly post will add value to what I have to offer. Please note I will make a small commission on any sales.

Goodbye for now, and God bless.

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Genevieve Ross September 12, 2011 at 10:07 pm

For as long as I can remember, my naturally curly hair (I sound like a character from Charlie Brown) has been the bane of my existence. I was called names, made of fun of, and downright tortured because I had curly hair.

I dreamed of transforming into Marcia Brady, carrying a comb in my back pocket (not a pick) and having a perfectly straight part down the middle. But, alas, it wasn’t meant to be. I used chemical straighteners, flat irons, and anything else that promised smooth straight hair, but when all failed, I cut it short, avoided fog, rain, mist of any kind. Even went so far as to not learn how to swim… couldn’t get my hair wet!

And then my world and priorities changed. I moved to a little Island off the coast of Honduras… humidity rules… I stopped cutting my hair, I stopped trying to straighten it, I stopped wasting time on something so unimportant.

I’m recognized by my wild mass of curly hair here on Roatan, and that’s okay by me. It is, and was what it is, and fighting it was a huge waste of time. I’m too busy living each and every day to the fullest. Oh by the way, the majority of people who meet me, love my hair, and wish they had curly hair like mine too!

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Christopher Foster September 13, 2011 at 12:46 pm

This is quite a story Genevieve. Thank you so much for sharing it. I’m so happy to share your victorious spirit and I’m sure I would love your curly hair too if I had the good fortune to find myself on Roatan one of these fine days:-) Blessings to you and keep living life to the full.

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noch - be me. be natural. September 13, 2011 at 4:32 am

Let it go with the flow. for as long as i resisted and denied the fact i was ill and stressed out and depressed, i made myself more and more unhappy. once i decided that this was the case, i went with the flow and let the illness lead me to a different realm of life and realization.

now i’m more self aware than before after going through therapy and a lot of reflections on my habits and old way of life… sometimes yes, we need to stop influencing and controlling life
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Christopher Foster September 13, 2011 at 12:31 pm

Thanks for sharing your story Enoch. I’m very happy to hear from you again and particularly happy to hear how you faced your situation and have been following through with this healing process. Every good wish and please stay in touch.

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noch - be me. be natural. September 14, 2011 at 1:03 am

Thanks Christopher, your blog has helped me a lot too in making my reflections, even though only recently have I been more “participatory” 🙂
Take care on your side too and keep the inspirations coming!
noch

Metod September 14, 2011 at 9:14 pm

Hello Christopher…another beautiful post. A nice example about learning how to let go. I’ll try to keep that in mind as I grow older and I’ll notice a lot of changes in me that will be hard to accept 🙂
Also, our dearest ones and friends might not always act as we wanted them to, so it’s important to remember to love them for who they are and accept the things they do.
Greetings!

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Christopher Foster September 15, 2011 at 6:28 pm

Thank you so much Metod. I especially like your last thought about accepting and loving our loved ones and friends for who they are. I sometimes think I would love to be with my Dad again for an hour, and accept him and love him exactly for who he was. But there’s an upside here. I actually believe we can “heal” our past connections with loved ones, and if we did not fully love them and cherish them while they were here — for whatever reason — we can cherish them and love them now.

Never too late, say I.

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Madeline September 15, 2011 at 8:23 am

I looked at my profile in the mirror yesterday and realized my jawline is down by my collarbone, and my haircolor is wearing off at the temples.yTime for a retouch. Yes, I am becoming a “crone”– NOT a bad word in my world! I eat well,I exercise, and I enjoy life to the max.. and yes,i had to make some changes to my HAIR–I cut it pretty short and that was a huge adjustment.But in order to do water aerobics, hike, bike, and enjoy life, I can’t be messing with HAIR all the time.

Accepting the changes that come with maturity is a part of healthy living, in my book. My priorities have changed! This morning I have to get to the Botanical Garden for my volunteer shift, I have a noon bike ride date, and tomorrow is yoga and a gals evening out to the local art walk.

A wholesome healthy life is about so much more than our appearance! And the ability to make changes as we go…..

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Christopher Foster September 15, 2011 at 6:20 pm

JoAnn joins me in saying “Amen” to everything you say here Madeline. I love your comment. “A wholesome healthy life is about so much more than our appearance.” This is such a vital truth. True wellness, true health, true beauty begins within just as it does with a rose or a redwood or the sun itself, and spreads out from there to enhance and enliven our world as we play our part wisely and well.

I wish you well as you go about your days and thank you for stopping by.

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Justin | Mazzastick September 17, 2011 at 7:49 am

Hi Christopher,
Thanks for sharing the lifestyle ideas in your post. I am all for natural and healthy living. The German Company that makes natural clothing sounds very interesting to me.

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Christopher Foster September 18, 2011 at 10:10 am

Good to hear from you again Justin. Thanks for your thoughts, and I hope all goes very well for you.

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Madeline September 17, 2011 at 9:01 am

This post started out about “hair” but morphed into a deeper topic: the concept of “SURRENDER.” Letting go and going with the flow and all that. This is easier said than done.But like all new skills that will serve you well, it takes PRACTICE.

So,I practice surrender every chance I get. Being a planner and a do-er and a goal setter, this is hard! I think it is important to have a general plan, a roadmap of Life so to speak, but I try to stay aware that some of the detours that come up may lead to VERY INTERESTING PLACES!

So, surrender and take the scenic route once in a while. I sense there is a higher power, a universal “energy” that likes to throw us a few curveballs to test our mettle once in a while.

Have a great saturday everyone.i enjoy the blog and the people who post here! Will visit often!

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Christopher Foster September 18, 2011 at 10:09 am

Madeline, thank you so much for sharing these thoughts. Your words are so apt and true. I especially appreciate your words about how “detours” — or what seemed like detours — with hindsight, so often helped open us to a greater experience of our own true potential and nature.

Yes, there is a universal “energy”, just as you say. And I don’t think it’s about to change its intent or its quickening pace just because a few people here or there, or even a great mass of people, possibly object or have conflicting ideas. Actually, I think riding the wave of change that is moving in the world and in our own lives — even if we get dunked once in a while – is the greatest adventure and fulfillment we could possibly wish for. I appreciate your visiting so much and hope you will indeed be back often. You are very, very welcome. Blessings.

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Madeline September 17, 2011 at 9:03 am

P.S. Genevieve: I imagine your curly locks are gorgeous! I PAID for those curls in the 1980’s!! (remember big hair and perms??) Those with straight want curly and curly wants that flat look.Go figure! Aren’t we all just naturally,humanly beautiful!!?? Yes, we are!!!!!

Would love to hear more about your decision to move to Roatan and how you did that!!!!

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Ken Wert September 19, 2011 at 10:25 pm

In an era of nips and tucks and hair dye and false fingernails and false eye lashes and pushup bras and face lifts and all, a return to nature and the natural would be wonderful.

Lovely read, Christopher.

PS: Getting an error message with your Comment Luv. Don’t know if the issue is on your side or mine. I’ve tried to install it on my blog, but haven’t gotten it to work yet. Hmmm.

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Christopher Foster September 20, 2011 at 3:22 pm

Ken, thanks for commenting. I don’t know what to say about commentluv. I find it tricky too myself, every once in awhile it seems to fail. A fellow checked it out for me 6 months or so ago and thought it was fine but I’m still not quite convinced. If you discover anything more please let me know. All the very best.

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Elane November 26, 2011 at 10:47 pm

Your hair greatly defines your personality and the whole thing about you. It has to do with everything and non the less includes your health. Your hair also serves as your crowning glory.
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Christopher Foster November 27, 2011 at 10:00 am

You’re absolutely right Elane. A woman’s hair is her crowning glory. My wife (80) is very proud of her hair, and I have to tell you — I just love looking at it. And of course her:-)

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Dr. Robert Doebler January 6, 2012 at 3:47 am

A very great example of acceptance and adjustment Chris. When we grow old, i think our body starts to deteriorate and there’s one thing we can do about it and that’s acceptance. It’s hard there’ no doubt about that but the faster we can accept the reality, the more easier for us to deal with life.

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Hair Care Malaysia March 27, 2014 at 3:33 am

These are really good ideas for life style. These can help to everyone to improve their ideas regarding to their life style. Everyone must read this article. I’m glad to read your article and I’ll spread this information as I can. Thanks a lot for sharing this post.

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Christopher Foster April 5, 2014 at 10:02 am

Thankyou for your comment. All the very best to you.

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Ivan April 19, 2016 at 8:20 pm

This post really got me. I am suffering from hair loss for about 10 years now, and I’ve been fighting it with all the treatments I’ve could find. Hair for me, as for your wife, is very important for my self-image and what other people perceive of me. Your approach tells me to just let it be and let nature do what she wants to do, and that I should accept it. Powerful and scary stuff! Got me thinking. Thank you very much.
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Christopher Foster May 22, 2016 at 9:39 am

Best wishes to you Ivan and thank you for your comment.

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TiredPelican May 27, 2016 at 1:24 am

maybe u can change a new hair style, be a handsome bald guy.that will be so cool.

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Richard Fitzpatrick March 7, 2017 at 11:21 pm

Hey Christopher !!

It’s been great to such post.I really appreciate it.Grooming your body hair can seem like cutting the grass in the summertime. You devote an afternoon to the chore, and the next thing you know, the grass has shot up and you’re hauling the lawn mower outside again. When landscaping your body, there are eyebrows to tweeze, mustaches to trim and coiffures to condition daily.

Keep sharing !!
Have a great day

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Christopher Foster September 15, 2011 at 6:30 pm

Thanks noch. I’m so glad the blog has been a help. With you in this extraordinary journey we are all on.

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