This is a story about hair. My wife's hair, of course, because the truth is, I don't really have enough hair to be worth writing a story about.
JoAnn has been talking about this for a couple of weeks or so, but this morning, I started to really listen. The first thing I heard is that her hair is really important to her, and always has been, ever since she was a four- or five-year-old kid growing up in Kansas. “My cousin and I were neighbors, and we copied the Shirley Temple look," said my wife. “We both had curls which our Moms pinned up for us every night."
About 20 years ago, JoAnn found a new hairdresser and a new hairstyle that she really liked -- so much that she used to travel 50 miles to get a new hairdo. I must say her hair really did look pretty good. Even I, a neophyte in these matters as I say, really loved how it looked... from the first time I met her.
But life changes, and you have to face your fear and trust the changes. And this is the point of this little story. A few months or so ago, JoAnn acknowledged to herself that, as she puts it, “My scalp actually hurts if I try to make my hair go the way it used to go. I told my hairdresser, and she agreed with me that we have no choice but to let it do what it wants to do.”
There was a little pause and she added poignantly, "It sounds crazy, but it's been one of the hardest adjustments I've had to make."
Letting life have its way critical to wellness
I can't help thinking how important it is to wellness to let life move the way it wants to move. We always get into trouble if we try to fight life or force an arbitrary opinion or mindset into some situation.
Recently, for example, I had a wonderful conversation with a stranger who lives not too far away from where I live. We chatted for nearly an hour in a very spontaneous and easy way on a number of subjects of mutual interest and it was delightful. I thought to myself as I walked away, “I think I've found a real friend."
Well, I hope so. But time will tell. Thus far there has been no response to a message I left on their answering machine. Should I try to influence the matter anymore? I don't think so. I'm quite happy to let life decide what is the right thing in this situation.
How about you? What's been your experience in this most important area of how we relate with life? Have you had similar experiences? Different experiences? I'd love to hear from you.
Wellness tips and resources:
Last week I mentioned a company I had come across named The Wholefood Farmacy that specializes in healthy, convenient, whole food-based meals and snacks along with non-toxic personal care items. I'd like to report on one of their products, Phi Plus, that I purchased.
To be brief, I like it. I really like it. It's a substantial, interesting, tasty, rather remarkable blend of organic nuts, fruits, seeds, grains, legumes etc. etc. Putting it another way, it contains phyto-chemicals, flavonoids, vitamins, minerals, essential fatty acids and fiber.
The list of ingredients is long – very long -- from organic pumpkin seeds to organic freeze-dried strawberries, organic walnuts and organic Stevia leaf. A 2-oz serving has 4 grams of fiber and 5g protein. No added sugar. I munch some before heading out to the gym, for example, and take it on hikes or to the coffee shop.
I'm a tall, lean fellow with a high metabolism, and one of my problems has been finding something nutritious for my midmorning and midafternoon snacks. Phi Plus fits the bill very well in this regard. Another plus for me is that it’s synergistically prepared in such a way that it doesn’t need to be refrigerated.
Another company I found out about that may be of interest to you is a German eco clothing pioneer named Hessnatur. It was founded 35 years ago and makes over 1500 natural clothing products for women, men, kids and babies. JoAnn, who has skin sensitivities, only wears natural fibers like cotton or silk and I much prefer them too, so we intend to look into Hessnatur further.
I’m hoping that including concrete wellness resources and ideas such as these in my weekly post will add value to what I have to offer. Please note I will make a small commission on any sales.
Goodbye for now, and God bless.
Picture credit: Silverbluestar