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Be kind to yourself — as the winds of change roar

We live in a time of extraordinary upheaval as the world we've known undergoes severe change and transformation, opening the way for a new world whose outlines as yet are not too easy to see.

We need to be kind to ourselves as this process of deep, fundamental change continues. Here are some thoughts on this matter.

 1. Don't take things too personally

People sometimes like to imagine that power is in Washington or London, in the halls of government or industry or the offices of a few very wealthy people. But that isn't real power at all. Real power is in truth -- in the eternal stillness at the core of being.

So when a "perfect storm" of troubled feelings rises up in your life, as happened for me yesterday for instance, don't take it too personally.

There may be something that needs personal consideration on our part, of course. But it's also quite possible that what we are really feeling is the tide of turmoil and despair sweeping the world -- and what is really needed is simply to be kind to yourself or to others.

 2. Be quick to change

Sometimes an old thought or habit creeps into our expression almost by default and starts creating trouble for us. Be quick to see it. Be quick to let it go, and change.

3. Face your fear

Speaking in a general sort of way (though it has certainly been true for me) humanity has tended to try to escape unpleasant feelings like fear. We’ve tried to stuff them away out of sight and out of mind.

It never really worked, mind you. At least it never worked for me. But one of the most important changes going on in the world right now, I believe, is the growing realization that it's quite safe – and actually very wise -- to turn and face powerful emotions such as fear that we may have run from all our lives.

I don’t enjoy it when fear or some other kind of emotional turmoil knocks at my door.

But like a child learning to walk, I’m discovering that if I'm willing to feel whatever is going on all the way through without moving, so to speak -- a miracle happens. I realize with extrordinary gratitude that the stillness and timeless beauty of being is with me still.

And I realize that the fear or turmoil is actually Eternal Love wanting to come home.

 4. Maintain your connection with Nature

Nature is a master at simply being present, simply being itself. If you feel strong waves of emotional distress coming up in you, remember the sanity and peacefulness of nature and take a little time to reconnect with it.

5. Keep your trust in life

Probably the biggest single factor affecting our happiness and well-being in this time of tempestuous change is our attitude to life.

Do we curse life? Do we blame life, or the universe or other people for our troubles?

There is only one way through this time of turmoil and it is to trust life and the fundamental goodness and wisdom of life without wavering.

As we do this, discomforts will come and discomforts will go, but what is eternal and strong and true in us will go nowhere -- it will expand and grow in expression through us.

6. Take time to relax, and just be.

Take a few moments to just "be." A philosopher named Pascal said something to the effect that all human troubles come from our inability to sit still in a room.

You don't need to learn to meditate necessarily. Stillness is springing forth from the depths of our being all the time -- all we have to do is open our heart to the magic of its constant presence with us and in our own body. Here is the very source of healing and well-being.

You have something so beautiful and precious to bring to this world in its hour of need. If you have any thoughts on any of the above, please write and share.

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The Vizier December 6, 2010 at 7:10 pm

Hi Christopher,

Change is the only constant in life. Everything in life changes with time. But not all of us notice or are we prepared to deal with it. Once again you have raised great points in dealing with change, so let me share my thoughts.

1. Don’t take things too personally

I love how you say that real power is in truth. That is true. Empires will rise and fall, leaders will come and go. This is the way the world has always been and will always be. One need only read the history of mankind to see this pattern. Of course with all the change going on, it can be unsettling to the more sensitive people or those who have not learned to manage their emotions well. I think you have hit the nail on the head when you say we should not take these troubled feeligns too personally.

3. Face your fear

No matter how far we run, no matter where we try to go, we will always carry our fears deep inside of us. Unless we learn to face our fears, we can never hope to escape or overcome them. Such is the fact of life. Our minds love to exaggerate the fears we feel. In truth, our fears are rarely as fearsome as our minds make them out to be. But in allowing our fears and turmoil to cloud our judgments, we end up being trapped and shackled by it, cut off from everything else in the world. Only when we face our fears can we allow Eternal Love to fill us once more.

5. Keep your trust in life

As long as we take responsibility for our lives and actions, Life itself will always work to help us. Even though it may put us through trials and tribulations, it is only by doing so that we can become more than we are. This is the only way to learn and grow as people. And as we look back on all the adversity we have overcome in life, we will see that we are the better for it even if we could not see it earlier. So trust life and work hand in hand with it. This is the best way to deal with change.

Thank you for sharing this thoughtful article! I know I enjoyed it because change is a topic close to my heart! 🙂

Irving aka the Vizier
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Christopher Foster December 7, 2010 at 11:00 am

Irving, you “knock my socks off” with your fine and thoughtful comment. Thank you so much for the way you amplify these topics with your own further thoughts born of your own experience. As I said to Phil a few moments ago, it is a pleasure to share life’s journey with you. Be well.


Phil Malmstrom December 7, 2010 at 8:08 am

Thank you Christopher, for yet another wonderfully insightful post.

The world is most certainly in a time of great transition, and as of yet the end points are very much undefined. In times like these, it’s important to realize that everyone’s contributions, no matter how small they may seem, are important to the end results. The points you outlined here are practices that can absolutely benefit all of us; Thank you for the reminder!

Have a Blessed day!
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Christopher Foster December 7, 2010 at 10:51 am

Sitting down at my desk after a nice breakfast from JoAnn I see your comment Phil and want you to thank you for what you have shared here. I love your emphasis that everyone’s contribution is important to what is wanting to unfold on our planet. I feel very blessed to be sharing this life journey with you. Blessings.


David Smith December 7, 2010 at 10:43 am

I suspect the winds of change are ushering in a new era of entrepreneurship, both online and real world. We must resist the fear that would send us back to the old ways where we lay our freedom down at the feet of an employer. Self-employment is a harder path but worth it and can be done with a positive outlook that helps us keep getting back up with every setback.
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Christopher Foster December 7, 2010 at 11:33 am

Thanks for this strong, beautiful comment David. Yes. It makes me happy just to think about this “new era of entrepreneurship.” I suppose there have always been entrepreneurs, I suppose Ford was an entrepreneur, but why must it be limited to a ‘well-known few’? Perhaps this is a vital component of a ‘new world rising’ — a new sense of personal power and the potential and importance of the unique gift we EACH have to bring.


John Sherry December 9, 2010 at 3:50 am

Lovely calm feel to this post Christopher. It has a way of relaxing the reader and helping take in the text, so well done for that. I personally found ‘keep your trust in life’ leapt out at me. How spot on! We often blame life and give it a bad press but do we give a situation or blank periods a chance to turn into something wonderful?

Patience is indeed a virtue. My own mantra which has stood me in good stead is – ‘Don’t blame the landscape if you can’t see the horizon’. Gets me through foggy times.

Loved this post and its gentle inspiration.
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Christopher Foster December 9, 2010 at 10:21 am

Thanks John. Much appreciate your words. I especially like your mantra. Isn’t it interesting how just a few words can find a home in our consciousness and as you say, help us through difficult times, ‘foggy times.’ Good to be in the way with you. Say hi to England for me.


Patti Foy December 12, 2010 at 11:45 pm

Hi Christopher,
Gee, I’m a little behind… but that’s okay. Glad I made it here even if late. This is a really beautiful post.
I always find that nature does the trick for me. Just a little bit ago I stepped outside to help bring in some groceries and the moon took my breath away.
I happen to not be struggling with anything right now, so I am going to appreciate that! In fact I am going to go outside now and breathe in the fresh air and just feel, well, the natural world around me. (Lucky I can do that here.)
Thank you so much. Peace 🙂
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Christopher Foster December 13, 2010 at 3:36 pm

Right on. Great to hear from you Patti. Thanks so much and I’m delighted to touch in with you for a few moments in this way. I was just writing about nature…a bunny that lives outside our front door. Peace to you too.


Mamie Hatfield December 24, 2010 at 12:19 am

Thanks. Much appreciate your words. I especially like your mantra. Isn’t it interesting how just a few words can find a home in our consciousness and as you say, help us through difficult times, ‘foggy times.’ Good to be in the way with you. Say hi to England for me.


Christopher Foster December 24, 2010 at 1:19 pm

Good to be in the way with you too Mamie. Every good wish and have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year.


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