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How to say “yes” to the peace of your own being


A lot of people are going to be on the move in America this week as they celebrate Thanksgiving.

Planes will be full. Roads and airports will be jammed.

People will be connecting with loved ones. Tummies will be filling with good food.

But there is one thing that won't be going anywhere this holiday season -- or any other time. And that is the beautiful, timeless peace at the core of your own being.

It's who you truly are -- the very source of authentic happiness and well-being. But how can we become more conscious of it? How can we say "yes" to the peace that is our true home and birthright in this world, as the Buddha learned many years ago?

Here are 7 suggestions to help you find greater peace in life.

How to say "yes" to peace

1. Put real value in silence.

Obviously silence in an external sense is not so easy to find in the world anymore. There certainly won't be a lot of silence in our nation's airports this week. But if we really want more peace in our lives it's critical to open our heart to silence -- both within ourselves, and beyond ourselves. And of course it's also critical to face any fear of silence that may arise in us.

 2. Don't let thoughts dictate what you do

Our mind is a wonderful instrument, a marvelous creation, but sometimes it takes itself too seriously. It likes to think of itself as the manager of the universe. It likes to puff itself up and assume the role of a dictator. If you really want to find true peace keep an eye on your thoughts. They may be beautiful, helpful, and inspiring -- but they may not.

 3. Love nature

Take time to love nature, and connect with nature. Nature has taken a lot of hits, particularly in recent generations. But it is still a friend, one of our best friends. It will keep on giving its gifts to us as long as it is able to do so, and one of those gifts is its ability to remind us of what is true and beautiful -- the unfailing rhythms of life.

 4. Give your world a hug

Remember the power of a hug. I love hugs. In the right context, at the right time, with the right person, hugs are a sure route to peace and happiness -- not to mention healing.

So when my wife JoAnn came to me last night and said she'd like a hug, I didn't hesitate for a moment. I dived right in. What I didn't know at the time, because JoAnn didn't tell me, was that she had eaten something that didn't entirely agree with her, and was feeling a bit "quivery" in her tummy. This morning, when we woke up, she told me that right after the hug she'd had a wonderful sleep and her tummy was just fine.

 5. Learn to change your mind and "let go"

When we cling to troublesome thoughts or feelings, whether present or past, we harm only ourselves.

We erect a barrier between ourselves and the peace that is natural to us. Learn to change your mind quickly and easily when it is your own peace and well-being that is really at stake. Learn, too, that it is quite safe to "let go" -- whatever is changeless and true in you or another person is never lost.

6. Be quick to forgive

Learn to forgive quickly. I suppose this is an add-on to number five really. But I have found the ability to forgive quickly is crucial to inner peace -- and comes very naturally when I cherish inner peace more than I cherish anything else.

7. Be patient with yourself

The profound peace that already exists at the core of your being is not going anywhere. It's who you truly are. It's the one thing you can never lose. It was there before you were born, physically speaking. And it will be there after you release your physical form and “die”, as it is put, to the world.

So be patient with yourself as you take whatever steps are necessary -- whatever steps your own inner wisdom shows you – on the path to a more perfect oneness and union with yourself.

Warm welcome to new subscribers

I want to express a warm welcome to the approximately 170 new subscribers who subscribed to my blog after reading a guest post that I wrote for Mary Jaksch, of Good Life Zen. It is wonderful to have you "on board."

The title of this guest post, by the way, is "How catastrophe can open a door to a new life." If you haven't seen it yet, please hop on over to Mary's blog and have a look.

Along with this welcome to new subscribers I also offer great thanks to Mary for her mentoring and for her kindness in inviting me to write a guest post for her blog.

Mary is cofounder, with Leo Babauta, of the A-List Blogger club, a marvelous community and resource dedicated to helping bloggers succeed in the fascinating realm called the blogosphere.

Also, please remember my free e-bookThe Wisdom of Serenity: Reclaiming Authentic Happiness, is available now. Simply click the download button on this page.

Love and blessings to all, and if you have any thoughts or experiences on saying "yes" to inner peace please do share them.

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Gail Brenner (AFlourishingLife) November 22, 2010 at 6:15 pm

Hi Christopher,

I was so moved by the title of this post: How to say “yes” to the peace of your own being. And the suggestions that you offer are so right on.

I love the way you speak about letting go of thoughts. As we do, the stillness is apparent, the silence speaks volumes. Thank you for such a beautiful expression of your luminous heart.
Gail Brenner (AFlourishingLife) recently posted..The Art of Discovering the Space In-Between


Christopher Foster November 22, 2010 at 7:07 pm

Thank you Gail. I appreciate your words and my connection with you so much. There’s a lot of pioneering to be done, isn’t there, in this realm of stillness, “the space in-between” as you call it.


The Vizier November 23, 2010 at 4:58 am

Hi Christopher,

I enjoyed reading your suggestions for finding greater peace in life. The following points suggestions stood out for me.

4. Give your world a hug

It’s heartwarming to read your sub header as giving your world a hug and then to see that in your example, you mention your wife JoAnn and her need for a hug. I never knew that hugging could take away stomach discomfort. Still it is an interesting example that you have brought up.

I totally agree that hugs are very powerful. In the right context, at the right time and with the right person, you can make a powerful difference with very little effort.

5. Learn to change your mind and “let go”

I feel that it is important to learn to let go. A lot of us carry unnecessary burdens in our lives because we can’t let go. One way of doing so is to reframe the experience that we cannot let go of. So much in our lives are a matter of perception. When we accept that unpleasant things happen to us because they are lessons we need to learn so that we can grow, it becomes easier to let go.

Thank you for sharing this article! 🙂
The Vizier recently posted..How to Live Without Regrets


Christopher Foster November 23, 2010 at 11:32 am

Great thoughts. Thanks for sharing. Re my hug with JoAnn, I’ve got to confess that I can’t promise it was the hug that helped her feel better. But I do know that right after we had shared the hug, JoAnn perked up and said, ‘I feel better.’ You’ll have to draw your own conclusions I guess…
Again, thanks for your thoughtful comment. All the very best.


Robin Easton November 23, 2010 at 9:43 pm

Dear Chris,

I really resonate with this. It really runs parallel to how I felt today and what I did. My thoughts were demanding that I “should” work, do it “right now”. My body was tired and my brain crowded with too much input.

I finally just used this other part of my brain and said, “NO!” I don’t care about the things I have to do, not right now. I HAVE to unplug for one morning and go for a hike.

I walked along a beautiful little creek, sat quietly in the sun and just…..let go. I came home totally refreshed and calm.

Bless you dear soul for seeing these very basic things we all sometimes forget. It is wonderful to come home and have my morning confirmed by your words.

Thank you from my heart.
Robin Easton recently posted..Choosing to Love


Christopher Foster November 24, 2010 at 11:27 am

What a beautiful and inspiring example Robin. You listened to the quiet voice of your own spirit and it knew exactly what really wanted to happen. I’m not a “religious” person but I am a spiritual person and your wonderful story reminds me of Psalm 23, where it speaks about “He leads me beside the still waters.”

It can all be so effortless and the part that is really so magnificent is that we’re not listening to some strange, far-off separate voice. It’s our own voice, the wisdom of our own true being speaking in the stillness of our being. Thank you so much for sharing this. Love and blessings to you Robin.


Joy November 27, 2010 at 3:45 am

When I am most peace filled, there is a natural flow to my day, an ease that is joyful, and an abundance of Love. I nurture peace in my life.

Last night, during a chaotic shift at work, I decided to renew my honor of silence. I am finding my voice, creating my life with words..so to embrace silence may sound contradictory. However, I live on the ocean and I miss her..I hear the rustle of the tree leaves but I haven’t pockets of time to Listen.

To me, Silence is as growth inducing as any practice I can incorporate–such as yoga or meditation, as inspirational as anything I may read, as nourishing to my Being as nutritional food.

All of the tips you share here are highly conducive to peace..and when we have peace, we share peace and the world is a better place..


Christopher Foster November 27, 2010 at 10:15 am

Joy, thankyou. A pleasure and a joy to share your words. I love what you say about silence, you’ve written a whole poem here in honor of something that I find more and more is at the very core of my life and the unfailing source of my happiness. Thankyou so much. So happy to have connected with you in this way. Say hello to the sea for me.


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