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Love is an “equal opportunity employer”

I was browsing a few favorite blogs last evening when I came upon a post entitled “Love and Survival,” by Robin Easton, author of Naked in Eden. It's so beautiful and inspiring I'm still thinking about it.

Robin exhorts her readers to "let love in" regardless of experiences we may have had as babies or as children suggesting we were somehow flawed and imperfect -- unworthy of love.

"As adults we are now strong enough to see that we were never flawed," says this brave and wise woman. "We are now strong enough to embrace the honest reality that people sometimes cannot give us what we really need.

“In embracing this reality we are better equipped to let go of old pain and forgive. In this way we can once again connect to love. We can now fully embrace those who CAN love us. We can marvel at the tenacity and survival skills of the human spirit.

"Love consciously and actively every day, and let others love you. Let love in. The more love you let in, the more love you will give your children, your family, your friends... and yourself."

Letting love in

The one thing I know for sure about love is that we will never understand it. What love really is, and where it comes from, is unknowable, which is a good thing, because otherwise someone or other would probably try to get in there and improve it or change it in some way.

But the fact that we will never understand love doesn't matter. It's irrelevant, because what we CAN do is experience it. We can “let it in,” as Robin suggests -- just like JoAnn’s daughter Sherrie did yesterday.

JoAnn needed to be taken to the hospital for a procedure. I wasn’t in the best of shape after some emergency dental work, so Sherrie offered to take her Mom instead. When they came back home around 5pm I thanked Sherrie.

She looked at her Mom and said simply, “You know I’d do anything for you.”

Love is letting go

Another example of love that comes to mind as I write this post is this: love is sometimes letting go.

When I was a young man of 23 – an only child -- I had a burning urge to go to British Columbia. I never really thought about it much at the time, but it was an act of tremendous courage and love on the part of my mother and father to let me go, not knowing what would become of me – or even if they would see me again.

Love is an equal opportunity employer

It doesn't matter how rich we are, or how poor we are, or where we live, or what our age is, or what culture we come from, or anything else. We all have the same opportunity as far as love is concerned.

Love is an "equal opportunity employer,” isn’t it?

I don’t know about you, but I can’t think of a better use for my life than to make it available as fully and completely as I can to the purposes of this most gracious and trustworthy employer.

PS If you have any thoughts or experiences of “love in action” you’d be willing to share with the Happy Seeker community, please do send them along.

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Lance October 6, 2010 at 4:36 am

I love that line about love being an equal opportunity employer! It reminds me that love is there for each of us…to give…and to receive. As I travel on this journey through life…I see more deeply each day how beautiful this thought is, and how love is such a universal currency…
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Christopher Foster October 6, 2010 at 8:44 am

Thank you for stopping by Lance. I’d never thought of love in quite those terms, but how exactly right you are, love is truly a universal currency, and it’ll work wonders in us and through us any place we may be in the world. Even if we don’t share the same outer language with someone love can find a way to deal with that too, can”t it?
Good to be on this journey of life and love with you Lance. Every good wish.


Noel Gaughan October 6, 2010 at 4:49 pm

Hi chris, Thanks for this great post, I have sent the link on to some other people who will also appreciate it.



Christopher Foster October 7, 2010 at 10:14 am

Thanks Noel. It’s always a great pleasure to say ‘hi’ and touch in with your spirit across the miles…
Love and blessings.


Tess The Bold Life October 8, 2010 at 8:39 am

My friend Lori at http://www.JaneBeNimble did wonderful and loving things for others on her 40th birthday. She continues to do them which is the most wonderful part of all.


Christopher Foster October 8, 2010 at 9:11 am

Hi Tess. Thanks for this. I’d say Lori is an outstanding employee of love. She has certainly done some kind and loving things for me, the latest being sending me a copy of a great book she wanted to share by Mitch Albom entitled “Have a little faith.”


Robin Easton October 9, 2010 at 10:49 am

Dear Christopher, I felt a bit out of sorts this morning, came online to do so some work and try to catch up on email, visiting blogs, etc. And I couldn’t do any of it.

I closed all the windows I had open and just sat here looking out my office window (a REAL window with a real view) 🙂 and suddenly you popped into my mind. And I thought I’ll see what Chris is up to. So I came here and was dumbfounded that you were talking about my post and various aspects of love.

Then reading my own words you posted here and your kind comment just brought tears to my eyes. As I continued reading your beautiful words about love, I began to feel more and more grounded, more myself, more real. You always seem to have that effect on me.

There is such a “pure-of-heart” feeling to your writing. It’s clean, simple, and immediately accessible to the heart, and more importantly it comes more FROM your heart and less from concept. I value that so much, Chris. Often we humans get very caught up in concepts and forget to listen to and speak from our hearts, our beautiful simple uncomplicated hearts. The heart is like nature; it just knows truth.

I am deeply touched by what Sherrie told JoAnn, as well as what you wrote about your parents when you went to BC. I could so relate to that. As I grew older, I looked back and thought the same thing when my parents let me go to one of the most remote places on the planet (it was at time). How hard that must have been for them. That was a selfless act of love.

I want to thank you for being you, because it shifted my whole day today. I feel more connected to what is true and real for me, and that is love. Always love. I too feel as you said, “I can’t think of a better use for my life…” I am still learning how to love more, but at least am very willing to learn.

You are a wonderfully dear soul; you just shine. I hope JoAnn is okay and doing better and that you are recovering from the dental work. I send you much love and blessings, Robin
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Christopher Foster October 9, 2010 at 2:39 pm

Your thoughts and comments are a blessing Robin. Thank you so much for sharing this. I am immediately with you in that one beautiful spirit of love that is the true home of each one of us. I’m sure anyone else who lands on this page and reads your words will also feel the genuineness but also the real substance of living that is in your words.

I hope your book is doing VERY well Robin and I am so VERY happy to be sharing this adventure of life with you. Take care.


Bill Gerlach October 18, 2010 at 4:09 am


I’m catching up on some posts in my reader and since The Happy Seeker is at the top of the page, I’m reading this first. So glad it is so. It’s a great way to start the day.

Letting love in and then dwelling in it — through the ups, downs and everything in-between — is what we should be seeking each and every day. Love is the “special sauce” of the cosmos.

Your positioning of love as being equally accessible by all is spot on. It’s sad to think that so many don’t take advantage of this. All the more reason for others to practice it and cast Love’s net wider and wider.

A beautiful post. Be well.
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Christopher Foster October 18, 2010 at 11:27 am

Wonderful to hear from you again Bill. Thank you so much for your thoughts and kind remarks. I love what you say about love. A “special sauce” indeed — capable of changing (and improving) the flavor of just about anything, isn’t it?
You be well too, Bill. Every good wish.


Madeleine Kolb November 15, 2010 at 8:12 pm

Christopher, I’ve been a bit out of touch of touch due to travel and other pursuits. It’s great to come back to your blog. What you say about letting love in is so important. I am really fortunate to have met and fallen in love with a wonderful man at my last job 4-plus years ago. Love can come at any time and at any age if you let it.
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Christopher Foster November 16, 2010 at 11:43 am

Thanks for your comment Madeleine. I’m so happy for you. It’s great to reconnect with you. Be well, and much happiness to you both.


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