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Is happiness looking for you?

Are you looking for happiness? A lot of people are. But did you ever stop to think that happiness is looking for you and has been looking for you with utmost love and determination since the moment you were born?

I'm not talking about surface happiness here, mind you, the pleasure that we might derive from going to a movie or spending time with friends.

Lasting happiness

I'm talking about lasting happiness -- the deep, irrevocable happiness of our own being -- happiness so deep that it fills every fiber of our body and mind and soul with bliss and never goes away.

The cosmos must have a good laugh (or cry) about all this once in awhile, because that which would make us truly happy and whole and at peace is never going to stop looking for us. Yet as long as we keep ignoring it or trying to hide from it, looking for happiness on our own terms -- we actually make ourselves very unhappy and troubled.

Where true happiness and peace reside

Here are four ways you can resolve this situation and come out from the shadows, so to speak, so that you reconnect with the truth of your own being where all true happiness and peace reside.

1. (This is an important one). Be kind to yourself.

Be kind to yourself. Love yourself. And most importantly, forgive yourself. It is amazing how much you've handled in your life, and how far you've come.

2. Think about something beautiful.

Stop thinking about all the troubles in your life or in the world and think about something beautiful. My dad, who lived until he was 95, and liked to say he could put his medical history on the back of a postage stamp, told me once that he made a point of thinking about something beautiful, a happy memory, every night before he went to sleep.

3. Stop being so busy

Stop being so busy for a moment and simply surrender to the stillness that is calling to you in every moment.

4. Give thanks for the stillness

Give thanks for the stillness even if it makes you uncomfortable -- which of course it will, because this is what stillness does. Consider the possibility that this apparent emptiness is the very face of the happiness you have been looking for so long.

Do you have any thoughts on this line of thinking? I'd love to hear from you. It may seem as if we're strangers -- ships passing pass in the night -- but I don't believe it for a moment.

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Robin Easton August 5, 2010 at 9:42 am

Dear Chris, This is just sooooooo beautiful. I think it is the bare bones simplicity of it that makes it so powerful and endearing. Your energy really comes through strongly in this whole piece, but especially in this line, which brought tears to my eyes: “…forgive yourself. It is amazing how much you’ve handled in your life, and how far you’ve come.”

In that line you speak with all the compassion, wisdom and love that is just soooo YOU!! You aren’t merely “telling” the reader something conceptual here; you are GIVING them something. You are giving them nourishment, compassion, acceptance, love, encouragement, peace and permission to give those same things to themselves. It is just such a beautiful line, one we ALL need to hear throughout our lives and fairly regularly. I think because we grow up in a world/society that often teaches us to be harsh/hard on ourselves, it can be something we continue to do throughout our lives. So your reminder is just precious.

I also LOVE all these lines below and agree 1000% 🙂 “Consider the possibility that this apparent emptiness is the very face of the happiness you have been looking for so long.”

Chris I write about this in my second book, the one I’m working on now. The first one, Naked in Eden is out Sept 1, The second one is a sequel and also take place in the rainforest, and shares my story of discovering myself, my soul, my core, Spirit/God, in the “Nothing” or “Emptiness”. And what a shinning light it is. It brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it. In the darkest dark, in the emptiest empty, I found the brightest light, I fullest Love. What a life experience. My heart SINGS to read your words. YES!!!

Then these lines: “It may seem as if we’re strangers — ships passing pass in the night — but I don’t believe it for a moment.” Chris, this brought tears to me eyes. You are a treasure!! YES! You must have lived a remarkable life to have this level of simple deep core wisdom. One that you LIVE and don’t just talk about or conceptualize. You touch all the lives around you so openly and warmly and THAT is what Life is about. It’s who we REALLY are. Bless you dear soul. You just keep being you and the world will keep changing. In being you, you confirm much for me. Blessings of love, Robin


Christopher Foster August 5, 2010 at 10:45 am

Such a beautiful comment Robin. Your words and the spirit of them comfort my soul. They arrived in my email box here just now at just the right time, when I was wondering what writers often wonder to themselves, whether the words I’m sending out really do mean something to someone…
So thank you so much for taking the time to confirm that yes, they do …
That’s exciting that your first book, Naked in Eden, will be out Sept. 1. So soon. Who is the publisher? I’m wondering if you could send me some more info about it or an outline and I will make an announcement on the blog.
Love and blessings to you Robin and thank you for your presence in the world.


Lance August 5, 2010 at 9:45 pm

As I read this, I’m reminded of a meditation practice I’ve started recently. While I was on vacation recently, meditation (and its accompanying stillness) were easy. And then I came home – and first off – I forgot all about doing this. And then a couple of days later when I did remember – I found it very challenging to stay in that stillness. (and yet – on vacation – these moments of stillness were wonderful and so connecting for me). Hmmm….perhaps there’s some issue for me to resolve with letting that stillness in…

I do know, though, that starting today – I will offers thanks for the stillness I do have. In fact, as I try that right now in the middle of this comment, it IS a bit uncomfortable.

Happiness – such a beautiful thing, and what you have shared here is touching to my soul tonight.

Much peace,


Christopher Foster August 6, 2010 at 9:25 am

Such a pleasure to get your comment Lance. Many thanks for sharing these thoughts.
It’s a paradox, isn’t it? When we do experience stillness — even for just a moment or two — genuinely experience it, it’s wonderful, thrilling even, as you suggest.
And yet it certainly can be uncomfortable too, just as you say.
Perhaps its because as a culture we have drifted further and further away from what is truly natural and healing, in our quest for more and more outer stimulus?
I love it when you speak of simply being thankful for the stillness you do have — surely this is our way home and our best possible starting point.


Uzma August 6, 2010 at 3:31 pm

A deep and humble thank you for this post. To be kind to myself is where I am. Thank you for this reminder. God bless


Christopher Foster August 6, 2010 at 7:07 pm

Deep thanks to you too for your comment Uzma. Suddenly, a comment shows up like yours. One moment, it wasn’t there. The next moment it is there, and with it a tangible feeling of connection with a fellow pilgrim quite a long way away. India, I believe. What a remarkable country, so much energy, and life — was privileged to make a number of visits back along the way. Every good wish Uzma.


Uzma August 7, 2010 at 2:46 am

It is my privilege to be here. . Taking on from Lance’s comment, I wonder why we lose the stillness, why the mind and the body just don’t sit still. So much inner work to do, so much to uncover, sometimes it is overwhelming. So to reiterate your point.We must be kind to ourselves. Gentle and let the healing happen. Thank u for your warm words.


Christopher Foster August 7, 2010 at 9:25 am

Thank you again Uzma for sharing. I am very touched by your words. Two thoughts come to my mind. One is that I don’t think any of us can do this all on our own (even though paradoxically there is something only we can do). We all need the reassurance and agreement of others, or of another person.
But the other thought is this. I think you should be so proud Uzma that you have the courage and integrity to face these issues, and not run away, as many do. As uncomfortable as it can be, the essential thing is to keep on going, not let yourself be stopped.
Ultimately, stillness is all there is. Forms come and go — but the stillness of your own being is always here. It won’t let you down.
There is a saying that “the darkest hour is just before the dawn.” I have found this to be so true.
Love and blessings.


Uzma August 13, 2010 at 3:08 pm

Thank u Christopher. Indeed, the reassurance of others is what I need. I do have the courage to know that the stillness is lost somewhere, behind veils (as the sufi’s say), yet I don’t know how to let the veils fall. After all the seeking, I think it is time to stop and just let myself be. Am hoping that will be a step to peace too.


Christopher Foster August 13, 2010 at 6:33 pm

Hi Uzma. Thanks for your input. I think you are absolutely right. Stop seeking. The name of my blog is kind of a paradox. We become a happy seeker when we stop seeking! But a bit of seeking is necessary to prime the pump so to speak, at least it was for me.

You can’t go wrong if you literally just stop for a moment. Stop whatever you are doing, stop your thinking, and take the first baby step of listening to emptiness. It may seem strange and unusual at first to do this. We tend to be afraid of nothingness. But make this a habit, something you just do every now and again whenever you think of it or have a moment to spare during the day, and you will find the apparent emptines is alive with wonder — with bliss.
And the bliss is you.

In my experience, stopping and simply surrendering in this way to emptiness (ie stillness) is the only way to let go and begin the process of becoming more sensitive to the presence of our own being.

You will find that this is not only very enjoyable but there is no end to it. There is always more peace and authentic happiness to be experienced.

With love and blessings.


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