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“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak, it’s also what it takes to sit down and listen.”—Winston Churchill.

I love Churchill’s words—especially the part about listening. I’m 84-years-old, but I am still learning every day to be a better listener.

Anything good that has come to me through the years—my marriage to JoAnn, for example—exists and prospers simply because somewhere along the way I learned to stop talking and listen to what this calm, down-to-earth woman was trying to tell me.

It hasn’t always been easy. I’m going to say that again. It hasn’t always been easy. For a long time, I had a habit of trying to share my side of the story before JoAnn even had half-a-chance to speak. I guess I thought my hurt feelings were more important than hers—and once I explained things properly, surely peace and light would prevail.

I’m happy to say there has been a lot of change in recent years. I think it’s fair to say I’m getting much better at simply sitting still and listening to what my wife has to say.

I realize how glad I am that JoAnn and I are different, and see life in different ways. We think differently and express ourselves differently. But we’ve learned to complement each other--we’re the same but different, as we like to remind ourselves sometimes.

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