I received such a touching letter this morning from a reader of my blog who has become a close friend in the past few months, and who recently was diagnosed with a life-threatening illness.

“My life expectancy is about five years,” my friend wrote, “which I intend to live fully and make it longer!”

We do not have any say over the sometimes unpredictable events that occur in all our lives. But we do have a say over how we will respond to those events.

We have a say whether our adversities will drag us down or whether they will be an impetus that helps us change and grow and experience more fully the wonder of life and the enormous potential of our true nature.

The letter which I received from my Internet friend this morning makes it very clear where her choice lies. She will continue to soar. She was soaring before her diagnosis and she is still soaring now. Though there will be bad days, of course, she will continue to love life and contribute her brave, resolute and joyful spirit into life even though her symptoms are difficult and painful.

My friend, who is a teacher, writes further, “I was advised to go on disability, but I know I don’t need that. It would make me sick.

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